Mommy and Cole

Mommy and Cole

The ideal situation for a parent is one that no one has - having a fulfilling job that requires you to work three days a week. It’s better for the parents, because they get to spend time with the children and also have a source of pride and achievement - and income - outside the home.
— Tina Fey

This quote changed everything for me as a mom and a professional woman.

"The ideal situation for a parent is the one that no one has... ."  When I read this quote, I went through my mental rolodex trying to find even one mom that lives in this parent utopia and prove Tina Fey wrong.  

Sure, I know plenty of moms who spend gobs of time with their kids.  I know a few moms who work only 3 days per week.  And, I know many moms who have fulfilling jobs (i.e., a job that is a source of pride, achievement, and income outside the home).  

But Tina was right.  I know no mom who: 1) has a fulfilling job; 2) works only 3 days a week; AND, 3) has the freedom to spend tons of time with her kids.  

I want to be THAT parent.  

I want the ideal situation to become my present situation.  And, when I make that happen for me, I want to make it happen for other moms too!  I know it can be done.

And with that my adventure began.

SHE BLAWGS IS BORN!

The name for this blog is a play on my profession as a lawyer.  One of the perks of being a lawyer is that when someone asks you, "So, what do you do?"  It's easy-peasy-lemon-squeezey to respond, "I'm a lawyer!"  

Being a lawyer and a mom is a whole lotta challenge rolled up with little-bitty, itsy-bitsy, teensie-weensie reward. It means dealing with difficult people at home AND work.  (You haven't lived until you've navigated the terrible two's by night at home and cranky azz lawyers or clients by day at work!  You wake up to a fresh new hell every day for what seems like years. But I digress.) 

Being a lawyer mom means always having a deadline and never shaking the feeling that you've forgotten to do something or worse, that you consciously decided you can't do something you REALLY want to do.

Oooh-la-la.   I'm living the sexy-glamerous-life of a lawyer mom. Said no lawyer mom EVER.

In my parent utopia, people would see the new and improved me who enjoys tons of time for things like mid-morning yoga, prepares well-balanced, yummy dinners for my family, volunteers at her kids' schools, and enjoy the financial security of earning more while working less.

Can I get an Amen?

The fantasy of life in parent utopia is that I enter a room and the whispers start not because I'm late and madly rushing in spitting out apologies for my tardiness but because my happiness is radiating.  My energy fills the room.  I'm put together in my size 8 fashion forward jeans and pumps. I look like I have everything in control.  

In my fantasy when I leave the room, I can hear other moms whispering to each other in hushed voices dripping with envy, "You know.  She blogs."

If you've found this page, I hope you decide to stay around and share it with other moms you think would enjoy our company.  Send me a note just to tell me that I'm not alone.  Read a blog post and share you personal experiences.  Or just hang out quietly knowing that another mom is cheering you on and sending all kinds of happy vibes your way. 

Peace and love--

Trina